Resentments can do a lot of damage to our sex life. Part 1 Hello Everybody, Happy January This article is for both sexes. As always, I’m going to talk about sex; you know it is my favorite subject.  Well, in a roundabout way. I have discussed this before, but it bears repeating. I don’t think people believe me, but it’s the truth. When we have ill feeling towards our partner it affects our sex lives.  Here is an example I was mentoring a woman last week who said to me that she just had no desire whatsoever.  “It has left me,” she said, “from my head to my toes, yuck, just the thought of it.” what’s going on I asked?  “Nothing, well, I’m really pissed at my old man.” She proceeded to tell me what she was pissed about and asked, “Well do you think it might have something to do with my sex drive?” Yep! Is the right answer. People hold things in. We don’t express what we think in most situations. Fear, shame, guilt keeps us from speaking our thoughts. We think “I can’t say that”  then the biggest fear is, “he just doesn’t get it, and he will be pissed.” […]

Peach Smoothie

PEACH SMOOTHIE   Want to know what this is?  No, you do not drink it!! Click on the smoothie.   PEACH SMOOTHIE  Is called a VAGINA FACIAL Just wanted to share this with you,. Have a great weekend!     I’m open for one on one life mentoring and accessible for seminars. You can contact ME privately with your questions at and I will answer you, and of course, engage with me on my website Show your support by  “sharing” this newsletter on Facebook; and subscribe to our mailing list to receive once a month my “Newsletter”, “Sexy Tips On Sex!”  “Toy of the Month”, and the “Blog”. “NEVER BE AFRAID TO BE SEXY” ME        

Who Has Control of The Remote?

   WHO HAS CONTROL OF THE REMOTE? I remembered something the other day while writing this article. It struck me funny, and I thought I would share it with you.    I was at my brother’s house a while back and I was trying to turn on his big screen TV with the remote. My brother came running down the hall; hopped over the TV table and said as he took the remote from my hand. “Give me that; It’s way too much power for a woman.”   We are still laughing to this day, but there is some truth in it?  I think so. Read on.  One of my lady friends asked me “Do you enjoy being single?” Out of my mouth came, “Absolutely. I’m in total control of the remote.”  I made a pot of spaghetti for a sick friend. Now I love mushrooms in my spaghetti, but I know everybody doesn’t like mushrooms. I gave my friend a call to ask her “do you like mushrooms in your spaghetti?”  I’m thinking the spaghetti is for her, she’s the one with the injury, who can’t get up and cook. Her response was, “OH, Tom doesn’t like mushrooms!” Hello, of […]


Sex Questionnaire   I’m creating a questionnaire for my followers. I think self-knowledge, communication and the ability to share this information with you is extremely important. This way I will be able to find out what’s really important to you or how I can better help you with some of your sexual circumstances. Of course, everything is only for my eyes and you will remain anonymous as always. Please don’t be shy with your answers, not only will it help you, it will help other people because the way that I’m going to facilitate this is I’m going to send out the questions and you can write your answer. I will use this to compile my own personal research. This way I will be able to share again, anonymously the answers to some of the questions.  As a woman, I find so many times we feel alone, what we’re thinking, feeling, what we like, and don’t like. In our life, we all have been ruled by a very powerful force. It’s our unconscious. It is more powerful than our free will. No matter what clothes we wear or how we are raised, we all have desires that are raw, deep, […]

The Last Elephant in the Room

 Bye Bye   “The iron chain and the silken cord are equally bonds.” Johann Cristoph Friedrich Von Schiller   This is the last blog in the series of five about the Elephants in the Room. I thought the story was apropos to make a point. Whether your chains are emotional, physical or spiritual, the message is the same, but since I deal with sexuality and sexual pleasure and sexual fears, I thought this really was the great ending to my series! A friend of mine tells a story about baby elephants. In countries where elephants are used as working animals, they must be trained when they are very young and not yet too powerful. The first thing a trainer does is fasten a heavy manacle and chain to the baby elephant’s leg, securing the other end of the chain to a metal stake driven deep into the ground. When the elephant tries to walk freely about, it cannot move any further than the end of the chain. Although the animal may try repeatedly to escape, it is held in check by the unyielding restraint. After a period of time, the baby elephant stops testing the strength of the chain. It […]