Sex Questionnaire   I’m creating a questionnaire for my followers. I think self-knowledge, communication and the ability to share this information with you is extremely important. This way I will be able to find out what’s really important to you or how I can better help you with some of your sexual circumstances. Of course, everything is only for my eyes and you will remain anonymous as always. Please don’t be shy with your answers, not only will it help […]

The Last Elephant in the Room

 Bye Bye   “The iron chain and the silken cord are equally bonds.” Johann Cristoph Friedrich Von Schiller   This is the last blog in the series of five about the Elephants in the Room. I thought the story was apropos to make a point. Whether your chains are emotional, physical or spiritual, the message is the same, but since I deal with sexuality and sexual pleasure and sexual fears, I thought this really was the great ending to my […]

Do We Under Estimate Ourselves Sexually?

   Do We Under Estimate Ourselves Sexually?   What does that mean to you? My interpretation is “I CAN’T DO IT!” or “THIS I WON’T DO!” “THAT’S NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN!” These, my Darlings, are the 3 elephants in this article. I never put a value on myself as a person, my time, my ability to love, my mind, and my climaxes. You pick yours. What is your net worth, (not money)? Whether you are a man or woman it […]


  OK, let see how big your elephant is.     I’ll make this multiple choice, it’s easier.   Grade your Marriage/Relationships: A B C D F   Do you like sex with your partner? o  YES o  NO Does your partner like having sex with you? o  YES o  NO Who would you change in the relationship? o  HIM o  HER What is the #1 thing you would change!  RIGHT NOW If you had enough money to leave, would you? […]

Should I Stay or Should I go?

Great question. However nobody can really answer this inquiry for you, and it’s a tough one especially if there’s violence.  I’m always surprised what we as women put up with and what we have gone through most of all, how we justify unacceptable behavior. Especially with sex concerns. For what reasons we do what we do. Well I can only tell you my experience and what other women have dared to share their secrets.  I had in my mind that […]