Who Has Control of The Remote?

   WHO HAS CONTROL OF THE REMOTE? I remembered something the other day while writing this article. It struck me funny, and I thought I would share it with you.    I was at my brother’s house a while back and I was trying to turn on his big screen TV with the remote. My brother came running down the hall; hopped over the TV table and said as he took the remote from my hand. “Give me that; It’s way too much power for a woman.”   We are still laughing to this day, but there is some truth in it?  I think so. Read on.  One of my lady friends asked me “Do you enjoy being single?” Out of my mouth came, “Absolutely. I’m in total control of the remote.”  I made a pot of spaghetti for a sick friend. Now I love mushrooms in my spaghetti, but I know everybody doesn’t like mushrooms. I gave my friend a call to ask her “do you like mushrooms in your spaghetti?”  I’m thinking the spaghetti is for her, she’s the one with the injury, who can’t get up and cook. Her response was, “OH, Tom doesn’t like mushrooms!” Hello, of […]


Sex Questionnaire   I’m creating a questionnaire for my followers. I think self-knowledge, communication and the ability to share this information with you is extremely important. This way I will be able to find out what’s really important to you or how I can better help you with some of your sexual circumstances. Of course, everything is only for my eyes and you will remain anonymous as always. Please don’t be shy with your answers, not only will it help you, it will help other people because the way that I’m going to facilitate this is I’m going to send out the questions and you can write your answer. I will use this to compile my own personal research. This way I will be able to share again, anonymously the answers to some of the questions.  As a woman, I find so many times we feel alone, what we’re thinking, feeling, what we like, and don’t like. In our life, we all have been ruled by a very powerful force. It’s our unconscious. It is more powerful than our free will. No matter what clothes we wear or how we are raised, we all have desires that are raw, deep, […]

The Last Elephant in the Room

 Bye Bye   “The iron chain and the silken cord are equally bonds.” Johann Cristoph Friedrich Von Schiller   This is the last blog in the series of five about the Elephants in the Room. I thought the story was apropos to make a point. Whether your chains are emotional, physical or spiritual, the message is the same, but since I deal with sexuality and sexual pleasure and sexual fears, I thought this really was the great ending to my series! A friend of mine tells a story about baby elephants. In countries where elephants are used as working animals, they must be trained when they are very young and not yet too powerful. The first thing a trainer does is fasten a heavy manacle and chain to the baby elephant’s leg, securing the other end of the chain to a metal stake driven deep into the ground. When the elephant tries to walk freely about, it cannot move any further than the end of the chain. Although the animal may try repeatedly to escape, it is held in check by the unyielding restraint. After a period of time, the baby elephant stops testing the strength of the chain. It […]

Do We Under Estimate Ourselves Sexually?

   Do We Under Estimate Ourselves Sexually?   What does that mean to you? My interpretation is “I CAN’T DO IT!” or “THIS I WON’T DO!” “THAT’S NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN!” These, my Darlings, are the 3 elephants in this article. I never put a value on myself as a person, my time, my ability to love, my mind, and my climaxes. You pick yours. What is your net worth, (not money)? Whether you are a man or woman it doesn’t matter.  For those of us that think we are not good enough; pretty, tall, penis or bigger Tata’s. Now the bigger bum is in. What’s next? It goes on and on.  It never stops IF we allow it to continue. Whether it’s Sex or Sexual pleasure, these Elephants live in our brain. I found out they lie to us.  My responsibility is not to believe the lies. Sexual pleasure or sexual denial: You choose. Do you think our expectations of our partner interfere with our sexual pleasure? Are you hard on yourself?  Or do we judge ourselves too harshly? Or them? Think about that for a minute. We expect people in our lives to do certain things the way […]


  OK, let see how big your elephant is.     I’ll make this multiple choice, it’s easier.   Grade your Marriage/Relationships: A B C D F   Do you like sex with your partner? o  YES o  NO Does your partner like having sex with you? o  YES o  NO Who would you change in the relationship? o  HIM o  HER What is the #1 thing you would change!  RIGHT NOW If you had enough money to leave, would you? o  YES o  NO Is there lying in this relationship? o  YES o  NO Do you fight over religion? o  YES o  NO Who fights to be right? o  HIM o  HER Who is always afraid of something? o  HIM o  HER Are you socially equals? o  YES o  NO Are emotionally equals? o  YES o  NO Are you adventurous in bed? o  YES o  NO Do you laugh with each other? o  YES o  NO BIG questions: Are you willing to try something different? Start talking about what you like? Asking what they would like? Try a sexual toy? Fear is the tail on the Elephant so think about this; Change can be scary, but what is the fear […]